Nasreen – A victim of Child Marriage

Nasreen – A victim of Child Marriage

My name is Nasreen and I am 20 years old. My father is a laborer. I have 6 siblings.

I was married at the age of 12 along with my elder sister who was 13 years old. The marriages were held together in order to reduce the expense of two marriages to one. My husband was 16 years older than me. At the start of our marriage he was fine with me but then he started beating me, committing physical violence. He even tried to burn me. He never trusted me and always showed his doubts about my character. He committed sexual violence as well and used to rape me. He had relationships with multiple girls since the start of our marriage. He used to talk to them in front of me. He would not let me sleep and tortured by keeping me awake all night. He taunted me in different ways and said that I am not a girl comparing me with his girlfriends. This led my self-esteem very low.

In the meantime, I gave birth to two daughters and became very weak. When I got pregnant for the third time, he sent me to my parent’s home. Taking it as an opportunity, he frequently contacted other girls, growing his relationship with them. Eventually he eloped with one of the girls, married her and brought her home.

When I asked him to take me home, he sent divorce papers to me. Due to my pregnancy, some people say that the divorce is not valid and some say that it is valid. Whereas, I am not sure what the status actually is. As a result of that pregnancy my son was born, who is 2 years old now.

I want to settle my terms with my husband because my children are getting affected by that. When I came to my parent’s house, I started sending my daughter, who is 7 years old, to school. My husband used to take her from there to his house where she was beaten by my mother in law and forced to do the household chores. This has happened so many times that he took her home and I brought her back facing severe difficulty. Now she is afraid to go to school and is becoming psychologically ill. My family has put forward a case for maintenance charges but, no progress is made in this regard. Being with him I suffered every kind of violence-physical, mental, sexual, social and economic.

I am physically very weak and have become a patient of depression. My family wants me to re-marry but I don’t want to marry. I believe I am not even worthy of that. My life has become a misery due to early marriage and I don’t want the same to happen to my younger sister or to any other girl in the society.

NOTE: Nasreen has joined skill center at Sheher Sultan and is learning sewing and further related skills to empower herself. Bedari is helping Nasreen by providing her legal aid and counseling services.

Comments ( 3 )

  • Shahariar Alam

    Honestly I am touched and don’t know what to say. While I was reading the story I found couple of stories. Story of Nasreen; her sister who is also a victim of child marriage; her parents who were not only unaware about child marriage but also streamed of extreme poverty; her husband, I can say, who is not even a human being; her mother in law who has no empathy to Nasreen, not even to her granddaughter; her daughter, a victim of child abuse. Finally, I think Bedari is doing a great job by providing her legal aid and counselling services. Nasreen needs motivation, courage and support to move on her life.

    • Admin User

      Thank you for the story of Nasreen . It is indeed touching and it confirms that we have a huge task ahead of us in educating and sensitising communities about the consequences of CEFM. Congratulations and all the best to BEDARI and all the partners who are doing an amazing job to address this and many more injustices.
      Frances

  • Mzikazi Ntuli

    Thanks BEDARI for sharing such a touching story. I would like very much to hear how the story of Nasreen ends, and I am confident that with BEDARI she is in good hands. We thank COL for this initiative and support as it will go a long way to change the lives of so many vulnerable and some times voiceless Girls.

    Congratulations and all the best as you go forward to advance girls’ rights! They are indeed children and not brides…..

    Mzi